Self love-The greatest happiness of life

• "The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."- Victor Hugo
  
  

Self-Love: The Greatest Challenge and Happiness

Our pains for love can be summarized as our sense of self-being brutally denied or rejected by the object of love. Love, in essence, is the affection, appreciation, and admiration that stimulates various types of self-reassurance in our heart which takes in the form of the feelings of being loved and recognized. The more unique and important position we occupy in our loved one's heart, the deeper love we can feel, and the happier we would become in love. Ironically, how we perceive ourselves plays a very crucial role in our love affairs. The law of attraction will either make us look ugly or make us fantastic by our response to the love offered to us. The more self love you possess, the more attraction you gain. To win the respect and admiration from the object of love, we need to love and respect ourselves FIRST.

It is unrealistic to expect the object of love truly appreciates us before we started acting the real self. We tend to assume that others know who we are by default, or at least wishfully thinking so. It really takes courage to be self as most of us would put on defensive system to avoid being despised in case we reveal something offending. The courage to be self depends on our self confidence, which is derived from self love.  Self confidence is a form of self respect that determines the level of our expectation from others, especially the loved one. The higher self respect we enjoy, the less we expect the positive feedback from other people, and vice versa. Self confidence helps us from falling victim to the parasites feeding on how others view us, making us vulnerable to love.

When we are truly deprived of something inside, we instinctively look for it outside. If we had no self-love, we yearn for romantic love to replace it to make us feel complete. But the external world merely reflects what is within. We look at the shadow of self in the water or mirror, what we received from others only reveal the image of true self. When you fall out of love and feel bad about yourself, remember to wipe off tears to see clearly, the one who really upsets your heart is self.

Even in the worst scenario, when our loved one abuses and degrades us in love, so long as we maintain good feelings for ourselves and never stop loving ourselves, we would not care too much about how we are treated by the object of love. It is the confidence in adversity. This solid strong sense of self-love will not be drown by the flood of ruthless breaking-up.

Self-Love is the love that we still believe in the beauty of self when there is no one out there who appreciates us. Self confidence strengthens and extends further even when we are not loved for whom we are. We still feel secure and loved because we know that we would be adorable to a right person sooner or later in spite of the fact that we are imperfect. This is self-love, the unconditional love in this world.

Learn to love yourself. It it is the biggest lesson before you figure out most of relationship troubles.  Each struggle and conflict in love challenges you on how you value yourself and how you love yourself. It is not important at all that you fall out of love, It is how you react to falling out of love that truly matters. Life is empty without learning.

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