The realistic cause of Broken Heart Syndrome: Love Incompatibility

There is a way to avoid a broken heart in a relationship. 

As always, about love compatibility, I firmly convinced by one sentence that I glimpsed at a German book store in Switzerland in my early twenties. It says: The difficulty is caused by too many different things. The seemingly simple words disclosed the very truth of the Universe. Admittedly, two too different persons cannot be together for full of misunderstandings and unnamable conflicts. But two too similar persons also cannot be together for lack of stimulation.

In fact, we do not need to choose either of the above two options to avoid a broken heart in love. I think two persons suit each other best for love compatibility if they agree on the major directions of life and complement each other in characters.

But in reality, it is easier said than done. When life conflicts arise, even if they are minor issues of difference, such as a different way to react to a particular problem, a different mode of thinking and perspective of view, or a different approach to solutions, the complementary personalities of two persons can be viewed in either negative or positive light.

From a negative point of view, we tend to become judgemental due to the differences in our personalities, even though we share the same mission of life. From a positive point of view, we realize that we can learn from each other for the common mission of life because of those differences.

Still, LOVE is like a piece of music

It is composed of melody and harmony. Either lover has to learn to take one role or another. If you are not meant to be a team-worker in this lifetime, marriage is probably not the right pursuit for you. For the marriage serving the purpose against our mission of soul, it is only our life debt that taxes our energy and vitality, making our life miserable and out of control, and it will be not only lacking luster but also making us exhausted and sick!

Good marriage partners have to adapt to each other with swift and smooth beauty. It does not have to be perfect, but both partners need to stick to love in times of struggles when two conflicting personalities arise to fight against each other. Always see the big picture beyond yourself and understand the greater goodness according to the universal plan to avoid a broken heart. The glue of love varies in different couples.

In a word, realistic compatibility in love does not mean a smooth and placid course without any challenges. 

There are always lessons to be learned in a love relationship. The combined strength of common view on life's main direction coupled with flexible adaption to each other's personal differences serves the very strength in such painful struggles. When there is plenty of compatibility in a relationship, love prevails struggles and vice versa. A broken heart is an inevitable result of incompatibility in love.

Excerpt of Murmurings of Wei  All Rights Reserved by Wei Chen ©2015

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