How hurt you feel from heartbreak depends on self-esteem
True love, where are you? Are you live or dead?
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved."
True love is mutual. It is the same wavelength shared by each other between two lovers.
1. Victim's Mental State Automation in Break-Up
How many times have we been hurt by the so-called true love? How many times those heart-breaking loves challenge the utmost bottomline of our self-esteem? Low self-esteem will automatically push us into the sharp verge of victim's mental state, in the matter of heart where the tenderest part of our soul lies. Why the one who got hurt always me? Have you asked this "love hurt" question or have you heard someone asked you so?
2. First Reaction to Break-Up
When we are being deserted in silence or the very loved sweet-heart suddenly turned the back against us, besides the heartbreak, do we wonder how come it is so or just directly sink into the desperation with cold bleeding broken heart full of sorrow?
3. Battles of Egos between Lovers
The better sense of self enjoyed by the object of love who deserted us, the more love hurt we could feel and suffer if we have low self-esteem, because the high vibration of that person's ego and their full energized self-worth work as heavy mountain pressuring against our weak ego or a knife with a sharp blade that makes our weak sense of self overwhelmed and drained of life energy, totally. Due to the low self-esteem, we would only see the beauty of the loved one, while neglecting to see our own beauty.
We will constantly feel choked and smothered by the harsh fact of being deserted and the more we feel so, the more we seem to get hooked by this sick love, leaving us forever in the swamp of the glory of that lover.
As a result, we become the loser in love and are deprived of the appeal of love no matter how attractive we were to the object of love. All the charm of our own can be faded away in a second when our self-esteem is gone. It works like black magic or curse in love. The reason is simple: the self is the origin of true love. How we treat ourselves, although does not decide how others treat us, determines how much love appeal we retain on the road to true love.
Yes, it is a battle of egos between two lovers when the relationship suffers irreconcilable gaps. It is time to test whose self-worth is stronger than the other. Usually, the one with more self-confidence will either leave first and calmly cut ties with the lover, or although being deserted and feeling love hurt, he or she is able to recover sooner than others after the loved one stepped out of their life all of sudden.
4. Lack of Self-Love is the Deep Rooted Cause for Low Self-Esteem
The deep-rooted cause of low self-esteem is a lack of self-love. Take a moment, here, to think about it. Yes, ask yourself, do you really LOVE yourself? Seriously. If not, it reflects a lack of self-confidence. Self Confidence is not an empty concept. It serves as the energy for a healthy life in any human relationship. It is part of our spirit.
Without enough self-confidence, our soul cannot function properly when our balance in love is broken. Self-confidence keeps us independent and sees through complex love problems with an objective mind and reduces unnecessary heart-breaking pains. If yes you do love yourself, congratulate, you are insulated with the dignity of self that can protect you against disasters in love relationships and help you tackle heartbreak sensibly.
We tend to look for true love from the outside and use the amount of love we receive from others as a measure of our self-worth. If someone supports or loves us, we feel like being infused with positive energy. It is so wrong! Keep in mind that love given by others is always an unstable thing.
5. The Significance of Self-Love in Romantic Relationship
People do change, circumstances do change. The love we received, does change constantly. If we could only feed on that capricious energy of love, we are doomed in love and head for the inevitable sadness in love. Do you know? Inside of us, we are capable to produce a love that is the strongest in the world to support our survival, freedom, and happiness.
Almost all the greatest achievements derived from self-love. Almost all long lasting romantic love are based on self love that emits irresistible sexy appeal for life.
Self-love is the endless enouragement and everlasting hope in the darkness that we give to ourselves when everyone does not believe in us before we make contribution to the world. As an unconditional love, self love helps us to remain objective and see the face of facts straightly when we are abused by our dearest loved one. With self-love, we would not degrade ourselves blindly. We would not mix up what is wrong with what is right because self-love gives us an appropriate level of self-confidence.
It is so important because self-confidence plays a vital role in categorizing our pains brought by love hurt. Most of our pains are virtual and illusory because we use the wrong standard to process facts and information presented to us, including that we use low self-esteem as one parameter to draw false conclusions on the love that produces unnecessary regrets that we are not in the position to suffer.
Conclusion
Please look deep into your pains in the moment of heartbreak, and feel what makes you so sad on earth, before you start to weep, just wait for a second, and change your perspective, you might well be in for a big surprise, a pleasant one hopefully!
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