Mutual Love: to love and be loved.

Mutual Love is essential to keep love young and forever

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved."- George Sand

True love is mutual. It is the same wavelength shared by each other between two lovers.  Otherwise, frustration and disharmony will result. We are very fragile in the beginning of love. It is very harsh and painful to love someone who does not return our love in a romantic relationship. It is almost impossible for us to take leadership in such a one-sided love. Leadership needs support from the subordinates who admire that leader. How could the one who is not in love with you be willing to be submissive to your love? To lead, we have to conquer the object of love first. That requires the surrender of the loved one. Why bother leading the love when there is no basis for that leading? 

Mutual Love: The Rhyme of True Love

For those who disregard the genuine responses from loved one and try to lead blindly no matter what, there is absolutely no respect in the give and take of love. These folks force the illusionary romance in their head on the loved one, and coerce the loved one to accept their love. They often fall in love without respecting the facts and realities that the object of their love has different voices and feelings, even after numerous self-explanatory rejections. They do not care how the object of love feel and respond, stubbornly insisting on the way of their love. This is simply NOT love. Do not claim how HOPELESSLY romantic you are. If you are one of this group of people, you need to wake up as early as possible. You are MERELY fall in love with yourself. It has nothing to do with LOVE!

On the other hand, No matter how the other person loves us, or how we loved that person, if we could not return our love, we do not know how to follow that person's love. Love is like a piece of music, and it needs to be echoed with a compatible sound that matches the tune of that music. It is a mutual give and takes that forms a certain entity in which we could build something together. To follow the loved, we have to be able to dance with the one who leads us. The harmony of love will be broken if we do not interact properly. We finally lose the track of following if we do not belong to the same pair of souls for love.

Love, after all, is a sharing.  Not only sharing our interests, goodies and pleasures, but also sharing deep affections and the recognition of each other's heart and soul. If we only follow love blindly, then we are only passively waiting and watching. Being denied the access to express and the capability to share our love with the loved one in significant levels, we suppress our basic need to love and be loved. It is an act of  self-deprivation, do not let it happen because it is a path that reminds you to pay more attention to self-love.

In a word, love is built on mutual respect and admiration. Walking behind love shows the impotency in love and lack of self-love. Such a following of love is merely a passive routine procedure, mechanic and soulless. Your life turns to be only a decoration of others'.

Law of attractions in the universe is the basic ground of cause and effect karma. Lack of self-love fosters the low respect in the heart of loved one.  If we do not respect ourselves, how could we expect our desires to be honored by the loved one? Love is a film or a play in which we have to act on behalf of our soul and generate the empathy touching the heart of viewers including our loved one, at least we need to touch our own heart first by showing our genuine self.  Stay truthful to your heart and soul. This is the truth of your life.